Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Dwelling hell

Girls who talk a lot about their problems with other girls are more likely to be depressed. In other words, dwelling leads to sulking, sulking leads to depression. Sounds about right to me.

Those girls, I think, need to direct their attentions outward, instead of inward, not easy to do I know, but enter Mom and Dad (please) and get them going on activities that relate thinking about about other things or just others. Might help.

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Blogger Dana said...

I've also known a number of big girls whose continual self-focus led to depression if not being unbearable to be around.

Unfortunately, there is a pervasive view in our current society that it is healthy, even theraputic to navel gaze even more that only encourages and even validates self- indulgence and perhaps narcissisim.

"Some kids, especially girls, are taking talking about problems to an extreme."

Well, we all love being the center of attention, eh?

8:38 PM  
Blogger Dana said...

jeez, I just noticed my 'even' overloaded comment!

But even so...

8:53 PM  
Blogger Mike LaRoche said...

From the Dr. Helen article:

I wonder if this over-talking and resulting anxiety and depression extends to adult women?

Is the Pope Catholic?

9:00 PM  
Anonymous luther said...

So does this only apply to females? If men sulk they just get happier and stronger?

7:06 PM  
Blogger Nancy said...

Mike L, I don't know how to spell a razz, so I'll just emoticon you: :P.

If men sulk they just get happier and stronger?

Sulky men score the babes!

8:59 PM  
Blogger Mike LaRoche said...

Mike L, I don't know how to spell a razz, so I'll just emoticon you: :P.

I think it's spelled "Thbbbt!"

I didn't have any sisters to tease while growing up, so I have to make up for it!

9:23 PM  
Blogger Mike LaRoche said...

Sulky men score the babes!

There's hope for me yet!

9:24 PM  
Anonymous kim jong il said...

I sulky ... why I not score babes?

(click on my name to hear me sulk)

9:54 PM  
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6:39 PM  
Blogger Elizabeth said...

I think there's a difficult balance to hit. It's somewhere between dwelling and not allowing yourself to have valid emotional reactions. I learned a long time ago that in most cases, I need to find other things to focus on. But there are occasions when that doesn't work, and I have to let myself run through the cycle of depression before I can move on.

(I also think it's also entirely possible that girls who are prone to depression tend to talk about it more than girls who are not.... Meaning that the tendency for depression is what brings on the conversation rather than the other way around.)

6:41 PM  

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