Friday, November 30, 2007

Evil adults

So this Lori Drew gal--a 47-year-old mother--faked an identity on MySpace to mess with the head of a 13-year-old neighbor who had lately stopped being friends with her daughter. She pretended to be a 16-year-old boy named Josh Evans and befriended Megan Meier for a month before starting to be mean to her. After writing to Megan something like "The world would be a better place without you," Megan committed suicide by hanging herself with a belt in her closet.

Drew seems pretty remorseless. She didn't tell Megan's parents what she'd done. She had been hiding a game table at the Meier home as Christmas gift for her own kids, but when the news came out--six weeks after Megan's death--that Drew was 'Josh Evans,' Megan's parents hacked up the table with an ax and threw it in her yard.

Seemingly without shame, Drew reported them to the police because, she said, since she found out at the funeral that Megan had attempted suicide before, she doesn't feel as guilty as she first did.

Here's the deal: because Megan had traveled with the Drew family when she was still friends with their daughter, Drew knew Megan had been on anti-depressants, and yet she still schemed and concocted this ruse.

Yesterday, I was in shock mode with this story. I googled "Lori Drew" and 14,600 sites came up. I'm not the only one horrified by this woman's behavior and apparent lack of feeling.

I know that perhaps Drew hasn't had her proper say in the media, but rack my brain, I can't think of anything she could say that would make me less horrified.

The Meiers have no criminal case, but I wonder if they can seek damages in a civil court. If I were them, I'd want to punish Lori Drew. I also wonder, could a case be made to have the Drews' children taken out of their parents' home? They are in grave danger of growing up to be evil adults.

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19 Comments:

Blogger Mike LaRoche said...

What a horrible story.

1:33 PM  
Anonymous luther said...

It would be inappropriate in my mind for a 47 year to be chatting on-line with a child to begin with. And to play a cruel joke like this to a neighbors child is extremely disturbing and unforgivable - even if the girl hadn't committed suicide.

As for her comment that she doesn't feel so guilty because the girl had previously attempted suicide is like saying “I only wanted her to want to kill herself ... it's not my fault she actually did it!”.

This is a very trouble person that really should be put out of her misery. What a monster. Sadly, if criminal charges aren't possible, then I don't see how anyone could separate her from her kids.

8:36 PM  
Blogger David N. Scott said...

Some people are just sort of horrible and horrifically self-centered. I see a tiny refleof it at work all the time... People who just don't think other people (Customer Service reps in particular) are real.

2:48 AM  
Blogger Elizabeth said...

That's completely horrifying!

I honestly wouldn't be shocked if that women were a sociopath.

10:48 AM  
Anonymous Vivian Louise said...

Not only does that woman need to be punished, she needs to get a frickin' job. Who the heck has that kind of time?

That woman is the kind of evil that ends up in the mall south of hell.

10:48 AM  
Anonymous hansy said...

What a worthless piece of trash. With enough pressure, maybe she will commit suicide herself and then the world WILL be a better place!

9:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Now are we going to start prosecuting people for making others commit suicide? The fault lies with Megan's parents. The girl obviously needed therapy.
Lots of people endure torture much worse than scum like Lori Drew (and I do agree that she should "rot in hell", as her neighbors are saying). If the bully is responsible for the suicide/pain, and we could clear them all out of here - Jeez, we'd have total world peace. Not gonna happen.

9:20 AM  
Blogger Nancy said...

Now are we going to start prosecuting people for making others commit suicide?

Agreed. In general, I think you're right that we shouldn't prosecute people for pushing others to commit suicide. At least, I can't think of a reason to write that law.

I still think there could be a civil case, though.

9:38 AM  
Anonymous rtist933 said...

Do you know these facts to be truthful? Where are you getting your info from and what are your credentials? I've just read an article on this story and it seems to me that the online community is propogating the same mentality towrads this woman that she has 'allegedly' perpetrated against Megan.

I am not advocating for Lori Drew, but it seems to me that more and more ppl are spouting off inuendo and hearsay as factual information.

Let's hold off on the witch trials until factual information can be verified by credible sources. This applies to mainstream media as much as the online community.

One destroyed life is enough.

9:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes this 40+ woman should not have helped the girl set up the profile but the girl was the one that made those comments. Plus if those simple comments that are made daily by children to each other is what made the depressed girl kill herslf then that kid was living on borrowed time anyway. If anyone should be to blame it is the parents of the depressed girl. They must have seen some warning signs and should have gotten the kid help or not allowed an unstable child to use the Internet. You find a messed up kid you find a messed up parent. What the community is doing to this lady is unjustifiable.

9:52 AM  
Blogger Christine said...

This woman helped her daughter set up a fake account. If she thought her daughter was only going to say "nice things," then why would her daughter need a fake account? It was obvious what was going to happen.

9:55 AM  
Anonymous Wish said...

Now are we going to start prosecuting people for making others commit suicide? The fault lies with Megan's parents. The girl obviously needed therapy.

According to the article I read, Megan's parents were treating her for depression and she and Lori's daughter were good friends at one time. I'd conclude Lori was very familiar with the depression.

What a twisted woman.

10:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I cannot believe that anyone is defending Drew, and then, in the same breath, saying Megan's parents are at fault for the suicide.

Also, comparing an adult allowing/participating in online 'flaming' of a CHILD to adults flaming adults is just stupid.

As for the 'factual info' by credible sources, I don't believe for one second that Drew will be totally truthful about her role in this. What is more scary about the woman is that she seems perfectly fine with throwing the other children involved with the fake account under the bus to blame as bullies.

While I don't condone death threats and property damage to the Drews, a good, old-fashioned shunning (i.e., totally ignoring the family in any social gathering) is completely warranted and acceptable.

The only reason that there have been no charges against Drew is because the law, as it now stands, isn't capable of handling threats and harassment via technology. Online communications and behavior via it have outpaced the law.

10:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Not to condone the deviant actions of the neighbor and her child, but I agree that while these parents cope with what is undoubtedly a tragic event in their family, other parents need to take notice. There is not a single, logical reason why children under 17 need to be participating in online chats on the internet. There is no emotional, educational, or spiritual benefit that can used as reasoning for allowing children that young to have unsupervised online dialogue with ANYONE.

Let this be a lesson to other parents who choose to allow video games and the internet to raise their child in the place of their own involvement.

11:35 AM  
Blogger Nancy said...

Do you know these facts to be truthful? Where are you getting your info from and what are your credentials?

I'm accepting the facts as reported by the NYT's as truthful, which may not end up being the case, I concede. But I'm not advocating criminalizing Lori Drew. Nor, do I wish her any harm. I'm merely asking the question, if the facts are correct, do the deceased girls' parents have any civil case against her? I think they have a moral one. For instance, Drew knew the girl had been on anti-depressants.

And if the facts are true, are her own children (she has at least one daughter, we know) in any danger of abuse?

12:17 PM  
Anonymous Tech Support said...

Now are we going to start prosecuting people for making others commit suicide?

Like Jim Jones?

I think, yes, a manslaughter case could be made. Sure, it wasn't her intent to kill the girl (hopefully). But had this been a physical assault, and the girl has died from an otherwise minor injury because of some pre-existing condition, there would be no question as to whether prosecution was justified.

For God's sake, we prosecute doctors who assist others who want to commit suicide...and we are going to give this woman a pass? If so, show me the door.

12:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"Punished" could mean she's barred from internet chat rooms. I wouldn't at all recommend she be prosecuted for the death of that girl. But it's worth looking into seeing if there are any legal lines she crossed.

She also gets to be known forever as "Evil Myspace Woman". Hopefully, when her children introduce her to their friends, the kids will always know exactly who she is and what she did.

12:41 PM  
Anonymous luther said...

People go to jail for inciting others to riot or commit rapes … is inciting others to commit suicide so different? I guess according to current law it is - but should it be?

I don’t buy the argument in this case, as some are suggesting, that the parents were the root cause and bear complete blame for the outcome. The girl was being treated.

WOW!!! Even tech support chimed in on this one!!

12:58 PM  
Blogger Nancy said...

It's a big day at Bystander Manor!

2:32 PM  

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