Sunday, August 16, 2009


Breaking blog silence to comment on this bit of writing:
The outrage and bafflement over mothers who drink to excess exploded recently, after Diane Schuler, speeding the wrong way on a New York highway, killed four children, herself and three other adults.
(Emphasis added.) Only over mothers who drink to excess? I'd think there would be an explosion of outrage over anyone who drinks to excess, at least where safety is concerned.

My guess is Stefanie Wilder-Taylor, the subject of the above link who famously wrote about mixing momming with drinking (cocktail party playdates) and has recently gone cold turkey, is too busy and too stressed and too ambitious. If her husband is coming home at 8 every night, and she can't handle the kids and meeting her writing deadlines without a bottle of chardonnay, perhaps the family needs to rethink their career ambitions or lifestyle ambitions.

Contrary to conventional 1980s wisdom, you can't have it all--with or without children.

By the way, you're welcome! For what, you ask? Why, for giving you my unsolicited opinion, of course!



Blogger Mike LaRoche said...

Everyone has the right to your unsolicited opinion. ;)

3:37 AM  
Blogger Dana said...

From the article,

"But as the gender gap around drinking shrinks, younger women, accustomed to their cocktail, continue to assert their right to enjoy it when they become mothers."

"...continue to assert their right"? Wow. If this is what what mothering is about, then a whole lot of little ones are going to take a hit. What about growing up and choosing not to assert certain rights because you realize they are not in the best interest of your children, your marriage, and your peace of mind.

On a side note, the NYT snotty elitism rears it's ugly head:

"Her new book, “It’s Not Me, It’s You,” suggests that Ms. Wilder-Taylor, who speaks with authority to EveryMom, does so in spite of her background.

No, she never went to college.

Millions of mommies who are not college grads just lost their credibility. They might as well be drinking.

1:31 AM  
Blogger K. W. said...

On behalf of the western world, which I happen to represent, please accept a standing invitation to express your opinion, in order that we may be made better. Papa Ken

5:34 AM  

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